I’m still in high school, but next year will be my last. So, I’ve decided to compile a list of the most important things that high school has taught me so far, and here it is:
7. It’s okay to cry over a boy (or girl).
When I was fourteen, I thought girls who cried over boys were lame. I mean, really? No way, Jose.
Turns out, in life, we do end up getting our hearts broken sometime, and it can get ugly. By that, I mean staying-up-late-at-night-eating-Taco-Bell-and-crying-to-Taylor-Swift-songs ugly. But I learned that being strong is not about never letting yourself get hurt; it’s about getting back up. If you cry over a boy/girl, it doesn’t mean you’re weak or pathetic. It just means you’re a human being with a heart that needs some time to heal.
6. Haters will hate, but you don’t have to.
Not everyone’s going to like you. I know, shocker. There are gonna be people who pick on you and hate you for no good reason. There are people out there whom you are never going to please or be friends with.
Get over it.
If someone hates you, who says you have to hate back? So, they’re not your people. What ever. Why is it the end of the world when someone doesn’t like you? If they don’t like you, it’s most likely not your problem. So why make it your problem? Why in the world do you have to get sucked into the drama? They don’t like you. So? Just smile, and learn to accept it. Don’t worry. The right people will see the awesomeness you have to offer.
5. Your life isn’t over if you’re the single one out of all your friends.
Confession time: I’ve always been the “single girl” out of my friends. You know, that single girl who can’t go on group dates, so her friends try to hook her up with a cousin or a brother, just so she can tag along? Yeah. Totally embarrassing.
But the thing is, I wasn’t embarrassed. At all. I wasn’t sitting in the corner, singing along to “All By Myself” by Eric Carmen. I was fine. In high school, it can feel like being single and okay with it is not “cool”. But it’s okay being single. There’s nothing wrong with it. If you’re the only single one out of your friends, it doesn’t mean you’re an ugly weirdo destined for eternal loneliness.
You will find someone someday and finally get to go on those really super-awesome group dates. Okay?
4. There’s a difference between having manners, and being fake.
HUGE difference. If you’re acting like someone’s friend, but talking crap about them behind their back, that is not cool. It’s great that you don’t want to make enemies, but that doesn’t mean you get to act like best friends. That’s not “spreading the love”. It’s calling being two-faced. If you don’t like someone, that doesn’t make you a jerk. What makes you a jerk is making someone think you’re their friend when you’re not.
3. Top 8 friend lists don’t define your worth.
Okay, let’s just admit it already. If you’re going to have a little “list” of your favorites, there’s gonna be some drama. Major drama.
I remember those times when someone would high-five me for putting them on my top 4, like they had just won the Academy award; but I also remember those heart-sinking moments of going on someone’s MySpace page and seeing that I had gone from the number 2 spot, to the number 3 spot. Yeah, I get it. We all have friends who we trust and like a little more than others, but do you got to rub it in my face? In my freshman year, the top 8 was more than just a top 8 list; it was the “favorites” list, and everyone wanted a spot on the “favorites” list.
Look, if you have a friend who’s going to have their “favorites”, then just forget about it. Does it really matter that Katie likes Sarah better than she likes you? Is it really that horrible if Justin doesn’t consider you good enough for his “circle of five”? Why does it matter?
2. Friends become strangers…but life goes on.
You know that feeling of being in a crowd, then seeing an old friend from your past, and not even recognizing them? At first, it’s awkward, but you get used to that after a while. Truth is, not all the friends you have today will be around tomorrow.
One thing that I had a horrible time dealing with was that it doesn’t matter whether you get the friendship bracelets, or promise to call each other every day. Sometimes, you just got to let go. It‘s okay. It doesn’t mean you failed, and it definitely doesn’t mean you weren’t a good enough friend. You know what it means? It means it’s time to move on. Life’s got better things in store for you, and if you’re too busy drowning in the past and what could have been, you’ll never get the good things in store for you. Believe me, what and who is in your future is way better than what and who was in your past.
1. Never change for anyone.
Ever. If someone wants to turn you into someone you’re not, then they just suck. They don’t deserve you. I don’t care who you are, you have something freaking awesome and amazing to show to the world. If your so-called friends can’t see that, dump them. If they’re too busy putting you down, go find some new friends. Don’t waste time trying to get love from people who probably don’t even have a clue what love is. Spend time with the people who appreciate you and build you up. Never be afraid of being yourself.
After all, who else are you gonna be?
So, with all that being said, what 7 things did high school teach you?