three things melanie hamilton taught me about life & love

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(WARNING: there will be a huge spoiler for Gone with the Wind in this post.)

1. Look for the best in others, even if everyone wants to punch them.

I can be a little harsh when it comes to deciding whether or not I like a person. I look for warning signs, or bad habits, but sometimes I forget to look at the good sides of people. We all have that one person we can’t stand, whether it’s our bratty little sister or the creepy  bus driver. But no matter how annoying/weird/disturbing a person might seem, you can always find something good in them. Maybe it’s their humor, or their courage. Whatever it is, if you open your eyes, you’ll find good qualities in all people you meet. Never think you’re above anyone.

2. Be loving and kind, even when others are not.

A lot of people are jerks, period. But one thing I’ve found out in life is that jerks just make more jerks. Someone’s a jerk to us, and we reciprocate and sometimes even adopt that behavior…even if we’re not aware of it. If you choose to be loving and kind instead, it can change a person; and then other times, not so much. Either way, when you choose to be good to everyone around you, most people will not only notice, but it’ll make them feel good as well. Then that love and kindness gets passed on to others.

3. Kind people don’t die alone.

Yeah, this one says it all. I mean, yeah, it’s obvious…but have you ever noticed that no matter how hot, successful and outgoing Scarlett was, people were more into Melanie, and were there for her when she was dying? There’s a reason for that. It doesn’t matter how cool you are, because inner beauty is far more precious than physical beauty. In the end, people will always remember you for the person you were, and kindness is something that is never forgotten.

Thoughts: Who else is a fan of Gone with the Wind? Who’s your favorite character (mine, as you can see is obviously Melanie, duh) and why?

“your face makes my eyes burn.”

English: Ryan Gosling at the 2010 Toronto Inte...

meet your BFF’s new man

Dear, friend. I have much to tell you.

LOL JK. I was trying to pull a Perks of Being A Wallflower here, but I can’t do it.

No but seriously, if you’re a teenage girl, woman, female, not a dude, or whatever, you’ve met him.

You know, him.

Your best friend’s new boyfriend.

Okay-so-like. You know how when she (your best friend) is all like, “I got myself a man!” and you’re like, “Since when?” and she’s all, “Since 2 weeks ago. We’re in love.” And you’re like, “But you’ve been dating for 2 weeks.” And she’s all, “Yeah, but we’ve been hanging out everyday, and we even had a web-cam date, and I’m pretty sure we’re getting married, and do you want me to name one of our future kids after you?”

Okay, fine. So it’s not that crazy, but it’s pretty close, and next thing you know, she says, “You have to meet him!” and you’re on the other line, thinking, “This has better be good.”

So you meet this dude, expecting he’s Ryan Gosling or something, and when you do, you might like him…or don’t.

What happens when you don’t like him?

This love story usually goes two ways:

a) You’re a judgmental freak, and you need to give the guy the benefit of the doubt, ’cause he’s really cool. Sure, he’s not your idea of prince charming. I mean, he laughs at his own jokes and forgets the FLUSH the freaking toilet, but he loves her, and she loves him, and there ain’t anything you can do about it, guuurlfriend.

b) You just know something’s up with him. The way he smiles, says her name, or how he eats a taco. You can’t help it, but his face makes your eyes burn more than dirty contact lenses do. But she’s so in love, and you decide to ignore it….until you see it. The way he looks at other girls, or the way he’s always texting a “friend”, or the way he eats a taco (with a fork!).

We always hope it’s the first way, but when it’s the second…that’s when discernment comes in.

Should I tell her how I feel about this? Does she notice what I’m noticing?  Is now REALLY a good time to tell her that I saw him flirting with her cousin?

This story, too, goes two ways:

a) You don’t tell her. You just wait it out, and then…BOOM. One night, she calls you on the phone, crying but sounding more like she’s choking, saying, “I CAUGHT HIM CHEATING WITH MY COUSIN!”

You knew you could have prevented this if only you just would have told her.

b) You do tell her, and she’s pissed. She thinks you’re being pessimistic, or worse, judgmental (NO DANG IT, I’M BEING DISCERNING, MEANWHILE WHILE YOU’RE OFF LIVING IN LALA LAND), and oh, yeah, you’re just jealous.

So what do you do?

Well, I’m not really sure. Because on one hand, you tell her, and she thinks you just don’t understand. But then you don’t, and she’s pissed you didn’t tell her and spare her.

You guys, it’s exhausting being a best friend.

But if there’s one thing I do know, is that being a friend is the important thing here, and part of being a friend is being her shoulder to cry on. Yeah, you (and everyone else) saw it from a mile away, but she didn’t, okay? Sometimes life gets like that. We all make stupid mistakes, and when we do, all we want then is someone to listen and eat ice cream with us. We don’t want to hear “I told you so”. All we want is to know we’ve got friends who’ve got our backs and are ready to comfort us…and kick our ex’s ass.

Thoughts: Have you ever been guilty of judging your best friend’s boyfriend a little too harshly, or is it just me? Do you think it’s ever a good idea to bud into your best friend’s relationship? Has your best friend’s boyfriend ever cheated on her with her cousin, or ate a taco with a fork?

the no-nonsense oddball,


YA Reads: Worlds I Would Never Want To Live In

Cassia has always trusted the Society to make the right choices for her: what to read, what to watch, what to believe. So when Xander’s face appears on-screen at her Matching ceremony, Cassia knows with complete certainty that he is her ideal mate… until she sees Ky Markham’s face flash for an instant before the screen fades to black.

The Society tells her it’s a glitch, a rare malfunction, and that she should focus on the happy life she’s destined to lead with Xander. But Cassia can’t stop thinking about Ky, and as they slowly fall in love, Cassia begins to doubt the Society’s infallibility and is faced with an impossible choice: between Xander and Ky, between the only life she’s known and a path that no one else has dared to follow.

-Goodreads Description

Confession time: I didn’t like Matched at first. Mostly because of the characters. I didn’t connect with Cassia all that much, and I really wanted to punch Xander in the face at times for being so…perfect. (I DON’T LIKE PERFECT CHARACTERS WHO MAKE ME FEEL INSECURE ABOUT MY LACK OF PERFECTION OKAY.)

I didn’t really care about most of the characters, except for one: Ky. I was really intrigued by his story, and I can honestly say that he’s the reason I continued reading this series. In a world where everything is supposed to be so perfect and organized, he was someone who wasn’t, and I loved that. He was like the Jack Dawson of the society or something. Without giving anything away, I’ll just say he makes the Matched series worth a read.

Could it be adapted to film/television? Disney has bought the film rights to the Matched trilogy. I think Matched would make a great movie, especially for those who are fans of love stories and movies that take place in the future.



Jonas’s world is perfect. Everything is under control. There is no war or fear or pain. There are no choices. Every person is assigned a role in the Community. When Jonas turns twelve, he is singled out to receive special training from The Giver. The Giver alone holds the memories of the true pain and pleasure of life. Now, it is time for Jonas to receive the truth. There is no turning back.

-Goodreads Description



Can I even review this?! Seriously. I think this is the first time I’ve been unable to properly review a book! I’m amazed by how deep this is. It’s pretty short, so I was expecting a quick and simple read.


It was—it had me—at first, I was like—

Okay look, if you like science fiction and crying, just read it.

Could it be adapted to film/television? YES!!! I heard Jeff Bridges is going to adapt and star in the Giver movie, and I don’t know any other actor who would make a better Giver. I’m not sure who would play Jonas, though. Hmmm….



In a future Chicago, 16-year-old Beatrice Prior must choose among five predetermined factions to define her identity for the rest of her life, a decision made more difficult when she discovers that she is an anomaly who does not fit into any one group, and that the society she lives in is not perfect after all.

-Goodreads Description

Now THIS is my type of story! I’ve been reading a bunch of YA dystopian, but none of them have been able to satisfy in the way I expected them to. Not because they’re not good; it’s because I was wanting some adventure and action, and I finally got a whole lot of adventure and action with Divergent!

I loved everything about Divergent. The characters, the atmosphere…THE PLOT TWISTS.

If you’re looking something similar to the Hunger Games (*COUGH* or even better *COUGH*), you’ve found your series everybody.

Could it be adapted to film/television? Gah, totally. Divergent has a very cinematic feel to it. Plus, it screams “the next Hunger Games”, but at the same time, it is its own book, too.  Summit has acquired the film rights and hired screenwriter Evan Daugherty to write the screenplay. According to IMDb, the Divergent film is set to release in 2015. (pleasemakeitsoonerthoughmoviepeoplekthanksbye).


Anyone else read these fabulous YA reads? Share your opinions about them below!

Why Do We Wait?

I’ve been thinking  about the Aurora shooting lately, and it’s SO amazing how something so tragic can bring so many people together. To be honest, it’s amazing how any death, whether it’s twelve people or one person, can bring the whole world together. Whether it’s 9/11 or a celebrity, death has a way of making us human beings appreciate life and people way more than we usually do.

But my question is, why?

Why do we wait for these things to happen before we start appreciating something as simple as being alive? Why is it we tell people we love them after they’ve left us?

The one thing that the Aurora shooting has taught me—and loads of other folks—is that we really don’t know when we’re going to have to say goodbye forever. We don’t know if our plane is going to land safely, or if the phone call we share with a loved one is going to be the last time we hear their voice. We don’t know if we’re going to get home tonight.

We don’t know if we’re going to come out of a movie theater alive.

What we do know, however, is that we still have time. There’s still a moment to enjoy the sunset; there’s still a few seconds to let another person know how loved they are. Because, even though I’m seventeen and have “all the time in the world” to enjoy this life, I don’t want to wait until tomorrow before I start appreciating what I’ve got. I might not get tomorrow…or the next thirty seconds. I don’t want to wait until my loved one is in a coffin before I tell them how much they mean to me, because the only thing worse than not enjoying your life is not loving the people who are part of it.

I want to enjoy life now while I’m still here to enjoy it. I want to love people while they’re still here to feel it.

Truth is, these tragedies are not going to go away, but they are not going to make me live in fear. If anything, they’ve encouraged me to live in love.


I hope you do the same.

Can I PLEASE Adopt This Kid?! (The Baby Bookworm Edition)

Books - bookcase top shelf

(Photo credit: ~ Phil Moore)

There’s been times where I’ve met kids and thought, “Can I adopt this child? No, seriously?”

Today I saw one of those kids at a book store and listened in on what was probably the most glorious conversation ever.

It consisted between a little girl and her mother. It went like this:

Daughter: Mom! Mom! Mom! Books! BOOKS! Can I get a book?

Mom: You already have books.

Daughter: Yeah, I know I already have 4 books in the car, but I swear I’ll read those! PLEASE CAN I GET A NEW BOOK PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE.

I just wanted to walk up to this kid and be like, “OMG BFFL?!!”. Then, like, hug her and walk off with her. Maybe even share a library with her.

I mean, I can barely get any of my little cousins to finish one book. This girl’s got a TBR list and she’s like, six or something.

My faith in humanity has now been restored.

How You Can Change The World In 24 Hours

When you think of a world-changer, who comes to your mind?

Maybe it’s this guy:

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Martin Luther King. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Or maybe you’re thinking of her:


J.K. Rowling (Photo credit: Daniel Ogren)

But you’re forgetting someone, and that person is you.

When people think of a world-changer, they think of someone who’s feeding hungry babies and selling more records than Justin Bieber, and in a sense, that’s true; but no one ever thinks of themselves as a world-changer.

The truth is, you don’t need to be a best-selling author or a movie star in order to have an influence on this world. You are already influencing the world.

You’re not J.K. Rowling, so you think your words don’t matter; you’re not Martin Luther, so of course your actions probably don’t mean a thing. You’re not on the cover of US Weekly and your YouTube videos haven’t gone viral, so it doesn’t matter what you do or say. No one is paying attention anyway.

That’s not true.

What is true, however, is that we are all world-changers. There is no secret club to get into, and there’s definitely no limit to how many people are allowed to “change the world”. You’re no different than the people you admire. We all have something to share and a story to tell, and if you are willing to give it to the world, we’ll take it. We may hate it; we may love it. But we will take it, and it will change somebody’s world out there. Change won’t happen over-night, but it will happen a lot faster if people just believed that they were enough.

The world-changer is the girl who sits with the nerdy boy during lunch-time; the world-changer is the man who helps the little old lady carry her groceries back to her car.

You don’t need to be on the iTunes top 10 to have your music change a person’s life, or a million dollars to put a smile on a child’s face. You don’t need fame or fortune.

All you need is yourself. All you need is today and the 24 hours of possibility that it offers.

So finish up that novel of yours, and don’t be afraid to upload that YouTube skit, regardless of how many hits it gets.

You’re human, therefore you are a world-changer. Own it.